I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all been in a circumstance where we felt hopeless and there is at least one person we confide in that responds with “don’t worry, it’ll be okay!” Or “just be positive.” – aka superficial cheer.
Like it’s just that easy to push aside our problems, right?
Today I came across Proverbs 25:20 which says, “Like one who takes away a garment on a cold day or like vinegar poured on a wound, is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.”
Immediately I was like “YES- I love this!” I never expected to find something like this in the Bible. At least it wasn’t ever something I searched God’s Word for in that situation. It really goes to show that even something like this isn’t too small for the Lord, He leaves no stone unturned so that we can find a solution to even the most minuscule of life’s problems.
You might be wondering, what’s wrong with encouraging someone who is down? In reality, people may benefit more if we weep with them rather than spouting off what we think is positive advice. Nobody wants to hear a ‘don’t worry; be happy’ lecture. They want someone to relate with them, and be there to listen and comfort them.
The best encouragement that can be given is prayer and motivation to stay in God’s word, seek His will, and meditating on His goodness.
This goes hand in hand with another proverb, chapter 16:23-24, “The hearts of the wise makes their mouths prudent, and their lips promote instruction. Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
When it comes to a loved one, or even a stranger in despair, it’s in our nature to want to help and have an answer for them. We think that by sharing our positivity, we are doing them a favor. It’s definitely okay to want to encourage one another, but it is advisable to make sure encouragement comes from God’s Word and with a spirit of humility.
The best way to uplift a friend is to uplift your hands in prayer together. ❤️